If you find yourself in a pregnancy that you do not think is best for you to carry through parenthood, my family and I have decided to say, “here we are Lord send us”.
You may wonder why we feel this way and here is the deal, my husband and I know what it feels like to feel alone. To look around and see all the people who said they would be there for you, vanish, when times get hard.
We know what it is to make mistakes that impact our children.
We understand how enticing the worlds solutions can seem but we know the deeper wounds they create and we want to mitigate as much pain as possible for you, who have gone through so much already…
We want to lead you to exchange false hope for the real lasting thing and that is the hope that the Lord offers.
He is true hope and He leads His people to move on His behalf and that is where we come in.
While my husband and I know true hope as I said we also know how hopeless life can feel. We are not okay to add to the feelings of your hopelessness by standing against a solution without personally offering another.
We want to take your sweet face in our hands and say, “you are not alone, we stand with you”.
We want to not only offer a solution but to be part of the solution making finding help a little easier.
We have decided to be, ‘Evidence of Grace’ to you and your child in these ways.
- We want to adopt a child
- We want to temporarily house babies or toddlers who need a place to land for a while (similar to foster care)
- Find a Godly family in our community for your baby.
- celebrate and support you and your pregnancy journey, if you have no one in your life to do so.
Something few people know is, my husband and I have prayed about this next chapter of our lives for a while now.
That has included praying for a child for the last 18 months.
We, along with our family, have been open handed as to if that’s our own child or one we adopt or provide temporary housing for.
While we don’t know what this next chapter of our lives will look like, we are here for the Lord to use our lives however He sees fit.
We are standing here with arms and hearts open wide.
As we reflect on our lives and our own hardships. We are keenly aware that we have gone through so much and been given so much so that we can help much.
We want to pour out our lives for the Lord and what better way than to be in this with you and your child.
Of course, we can not take in countless babies and so are dedicated to connecting you to solid resources such as adoption agencies and other families like ours.
We are hopeful that this informal rout of posting on our blog and on social media, will take some of the overwhelm out of the decision making process for mothers who are already overwhelmed enough.
We hope we are giving a practical option that feels more tangible, more “doable”.
Don’t worry, of course, we would do this all legally and above board, you just won’t be alone going through the process with agencies. This is a much more personal avenue form the woman who “needs help now”!
If find yourself in the position of needing any of what we are offering, you are probably hurting and unsure and ashamed.
But listen to me.
There is no shame for you in Christ or with us.
We have done and been though so much.
We have no stone to throw, just love to give.
Expectant moms, I speak boldness and bravery over you, that you will believe that Jesus is still the God of the Bible. The one who redeems the worst of things through giving life and life abundantly.
You can choose life and choose boundaries around your pain and choose adoption. You can give us or another family the privilege of being a servant to you and your child.
We want to be with you in your pain and partner with Jesus in redemption.
So, here we are Lord, send us to help mend the hearts of those who are hurting and to love the little children.
Love Nate and Sara Anderson
Our prayer
We encourage other believers, who are not in crisis to pray with us.
Jesus, our arms and heart are open to your daughters who are scared, scarred, and feel alone. Our home is open to the Little children who are precious to you and always dearly wanted.
We stand with you bidding to the hurting, come find rest in you Jesus. Show us how we can be part of the solution that honors you and allows us to lay down our life for another.”
Amen.
A Prayer for Hurting Mothers
Jesus, I am scared. I am sad. I feel so alone. Help me believe that you care about me and my child.
I don’t know how I got here but I want out of this situation and I need your help. Not only to choose life for my child but to choose life in you, for me. Lead me Father and guide me deeper into Jesus today, in a way that heals all the broke places in my heart.
I trust you Lord or at least I want to, please lead me to the best family for my child if that is not me. Hide us both under the shelter of your wing.
Amen
A prayer for a woman who did not choose life and has confusion or regret.
Dear Jesus, thank you for loving me before you made the world. I know you really do love me and I want to know that more.
Right now I feel shame and regret and so much confusion around my choices.
I don’t know where to go from here but towards you.
Thank you that by your death you paid for all my sin and in your life I triumph over it as well.
Help me fully heal from all my trauma and regret.
Help me find communty that truly accepts me for who I am and doesn’t shame my story but speaks your grace over my life.
I love you help me love you more!
Amen